I thought about taking her to the Blackout, but she's working nights on Fri, Sat, and Sun. That sucks, I had to take vacation just so I could go. But for now, like I said before I'll just take it one day at a time. I just hope when the time comes when I've grown a pair it's not too late, I've had that happen before. Hmmmm, maybe dinner isn't such a bad idea. Thanks again everyone, please keep the advice coming.

 

Hey Cold...you can let her know that you are interested without threatening her. Ask her to lunch or supper, talk about her (things she does, likes to do, etc). I guarantee she will know that you are interested. Like has been said before, the worst she can do is say no and then just act as if it is no big deal. It doesn't have to get weird at work; just act like it never happened (if she blows you off). Keep talking to her as if everything is exactly the same as it was before you asked her out. If she agrees to go out with you and things seem to progress, make sure that you guys discuss the potential problems of being co-workers and dating. Y'all can decide from there the best course of action.

There are no second chances in this life. If you feel strongly about this, then do what your heart tells you. If you have any reservations, think long and hard before you act. Just my .02 Good luck.

 

Ask her to lunch or coffie since ya work together.

 

Got a wrench thrown into my plans, got fired today. The company I work for was downsizing, and me and 7 other people got fired. I went and told her what happened, and gave her my number. Should I email her and ask her to go to dinner or a movie or something? Thanks, man this sucks.

 

See thats what happens when ya procrastinate, give her a few days and see if she calls ya. If she don't shoot her an email, but just to get her talking to ya. Don't ask her out in an email since ya'll don't work together ya want to warm up to her before ya ask her on a date. If it don't seem to be going anywhere after some emailing move on.

 

well i gotta throw my $.02 in too. there's 2 ways to look at this.

1- if you're already spending that much time together everyone at work probably already assumes that you two are laying cable anyway. so co-worker politics go out the window. if she's as sweet as you say, and you seem like a decent fella, then a possible future break up would most likely end in one of you having to quit because you couldn't stand being near the other one. it'd just hurt to much. if you are willing to potentially lose your job over this then go for it. office politics be damned!!

2- this is from personal experience. i was really good friends with a girl for years growing up. did everything together. when i wasn't dating someone, she was, and vice versa. we talked for years about dating "someday". but when the day came, she decided she didn't want to risk the friendship. ( i don't know how she could pass up all of this pimpin') now, some 12 or so years later we're both married, gone our seperate ways, and hardly talk anymore. i love my wife and wouldn't change our life for the world. but i still miss my friend and a small part of me will always wonder what if....

bottom line. there isn't any right answer here. there are potential consequences for either action. do what you feel is right. personally i'd go for it.

 

johnnychimpo, don't have to worry about work getting wierd, our company did some cutbacks, and I was one of the elite 8. Boss was supposed to escort me out immediately, I told him to wait in the hallway while I went and saw her. Gave her my number and told her that I really wanted to see her. Gotta go. Thanks everyone.

 

Theres one good thing - you shouldnt have any trouble finding work in Alberta...

 

I hope you're right Dr. Evil, I've had trouble in the past finding a job. Talked to a female ex coworker a little while ago, and she said that I put the ball in this girl's court and that was the best thing I could have done. I hope so. Maybe I'll put my 4th Class steam to use now. Thanks everyone and talk to ya later.

 

sucks about the job dude. hope it turns around quick for ya. good luck with the girl!